Friday, 27 May 2011

Wisdom of the Week – Independence

Lucian Eyers © 2011


This week saw Iceland's most active volcano, Grimsvotn, erupting.

On Tuesday at 8.22am on The BBC Today Programme Transport Secretary Philip Hammond said this time airspace was prepared and we would not see a repeat of aircraft being grounded as they were a year ago saying, “There won’t be any shutdowns. We’ve moved on to a different way of working – we won't be closing airspace.”1
Unfortunately government and industry are still not listening to the cries of our planet. For pilots to adjust the flight paths of aircraft to avoid ash, even with the new scanning technology available, is dangerous and irresponsible.
The purpose of the volcanoes, as in the case of the other global disasters is to cleanse the planet from the damage we have caused. The volcanoes ash has a role to play. Its purpose is to stop aircraft from flying in the world’s busiest area of airport traffic on our planet. This is a gentle warning. 
What is the volcano teaching us? 
In very simple terms the answer is ‘independence’. We rely too heavily on airfreight for our food instead of growing closer to home. We are aware of the carbon footprint this generates, but still we continue to do this. In addition to this our own economy is in desperate need of investment. If people were to take more of their holidays in their own country, then this would be kind to the environment and to their economy. Once international travel is cleaner to the environment, then foreign travel will be acceptable to the planet. This is the message the Transport Secretary should have made. However, his lack of foresight reminds us not to follow the advice of any individual based on their positions of authority – we should follow our hearts. There is no better way of determining the truth than this. 
Also this week, a Kent doctor could face a disciplinary hearing after discussing his Christian faith with a non-Christian patient. “Dr Richard Scott, from Margate, has received a warning from the General Medical Council (GMC) after it received a complaint."2

 

For the General Medical Council to impose their own belief-structure on its members with no evidence to support that God does not exist, is clearly wrong. The GMC decision to hold a disciplinary hearing is based on fear and the need to control. 
Niall Dickson, the chief executive of the GMC, said: "The GMC does not discuss individual cases but our guidance, which all doctors must follow, is clear; doctors should not normally discuss their personal beliefs with patients unless those beliefs are directly relevant to the patient's care.”3
“Dr Scott said that after about 20 minutes he thought the patient may be helped if they had a spiritual discussion.”4
What Dr Scott is being told by the Universe is that he has found independence and as such will no longer work within a dictatorship. Dr Scott was right to discuss the spiritual aspects of his patient’s well being. We are not only physical beings and as such if we wish the healing process to take place effectively, then all aspects of our mortal fabric, the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual, need to be addressed. 
So what can we expect in the future? 
As we discover independence, we will change the old ways. Because the planet is shifting it's vibration upwards, we will no longer be able to work in areas that do not fulfil our soul purpose. Dr Scott is a living example of this change and through his courage he will help others to do the same. People will look more to independent healers as they become disillusioned with the restrictions placed on controlled medicinal care. Many will be aware of the problems associated with the pharmaceutical industry and will look for safer and more effective alternatives. People will also discover the law surrounding the use of only licensed drugs has far less to do with protecting the public and a great deal more to do with protecting the pharmaceutical industry itself.
The other significant change resulting in independent thought will mean we will have little need to rely on governmental bodies as we currently do. In the case of the Transport Minister, he has shown that a lack of vision and sympathy for our planet and the safety of human lives is secondary to supporting industry and trade. The consequence of further carbon emissions and climate change will eventually show people the need for independent thought and self-governing.

Finally this week saw ‘Fugitive Bosnian Serb war crimes suspect Ratko Mladic has been arrested in Serbia after 16 years on the run. Gen Mladic, 69, was found in a village in northern Serbia where had been living under an assumed name. He faces charges over the massacre of at least 7,500 Bosnian Muslim men and boys at Srebrenica in 1995.’5
This is an extreme example of where a lack of independent thought can lead to mass murder based on fear and hatred. Whether Ratko Mladic was guilty or not, somewhere along the line many did what they where told, rather than doing what was right.
 
So what can we do? 
Much more than we think. As a child, my mother used to say to me, “if someone told you to stick your head in the oven would you do it?”
With global warming the planet is becoming like an oven. A huge oven that if we put our heads in the sand – the oven will explode. My mother’s words of wisdom showed the importance of independent thought. I can give you a long list of things you can do to prevent global warming and the disasters that would follow. However this defeats the object of my message, which is to empower you to find independence.
You must decide. I will help your decision-making by leaving you with one thought.
What ever you decide to do, always ask yourself, “Is this for the higher good of all?’ In doing this you will bring about change – the right change.
My own pictures above and below are illustrations for a poem I wrote called. ‘King of Trees’ and is taken from my book ‘The Angel Book of Hours’. It helps to expalin how your own independence can lead to contentment.

You can purchase 'The Angel Book of Hours' as an eBook via our website at:





'King of Trees’ taken from ‘The Angel Book of Hours,’ by Lucian Eyers © 2011

1. BBC Today: Tuesday 24th May 2011 'Interview with Transport Minister Philip Hammond'.
2. & 3 & 4. BBC News website 23 May 2011 ‘Kent doctor Richard Scott warned over faith discussion’.
5. BBC News Europe website 26 May 2011 ‘Ratko Mlaadic arrested: Bosnia war crimes suspect held’.

 


 

Friday, 20 May 2011

Wisdom of the Week – Life


 Lucian Eyers © 2011

A friend suggested at the beginning of this week I should perhaps do a blog on the subject of life. I said that it was an interesting idea as we are expecting three Lipizzaner foals to be born very soon. We laughed together saying wouldn't it be funny if one was born this Friday in time for the blog. Then at 6.30 on Friday evening a new life was born. One of our mares gave birth to a beautiful colt. After our great joy, the concern set in as he was finding it hard to suckle from his mother. We tried to help him but realized that we had to just leave them both alone. The foal staggered about searching for his mother’s teats and although she stood like a rock he could not find them. Knowing the problems this could cause we began to worry.




Eventually nature took its course and the foal found its mother's teats to drink from for the first time. Therefore when left alone, the mother succeeded with her patience and understanding.


 

This week saw claims in the media by Harold Camping an American, who from his close study of the Bible believes that the end of the world will be tomorrow, the 21st May 2011.



‘He says a huge earthquake will strike on May 21, when just 200million ‘true believers’ will be lifted to Heaven.
The forecast for everyone else is not so cheery – 153 days of ‘horror and chaos beyond description’ until the planet is destroyed.
Mr Camping, 89, said: “There is no possibility that it will not happen. We do not have a plan B.”
Among those convinced by the prediction is Robert Fitzpatrick, 60, who spent his £86,000 life savings on an advert campaign warning New Yorkers of the end.’1

 
However, Mr. Campling has picked up on the number 21. It has been known for some time amongst the spiritual community that the end of the old era and the beginning of the new will fall on the 21st December 2012. To most it will seem like another day, to those who are psychic, the day will present remarkable spectacles as higher spiritual beings choose to share this great moment with us. It is likely that Earth will react in some way on this day and it will lead to the process of cleansing, but the end result will not destroy the planet.
So what will actually happen?
Everything is made up of vibrations. In very simple terms, the higher the vibration the more spiritually advanced something becomes. Earth also has a vibration and is currently at a 3rd dimensional frequency. At 11.11am on the 21st December 2012 the vibration of the planet will rise to a 5th dimensional frequency. In this historic cosmic moment great light will pour into the planet. Never before has a planet shifted so dramatically in the history of the Universe.
So why is this happening?
For the first time we have never been so close to destroying ourselves and our natural world. The Universe has stepped in and will not allow this to happen as all is connected. What we do here affects the whole of the cosmos. In crude terms we must either shape-up or ship-out.
How will this happen?
Our planet will be cleansed. Cleansing takes place in two ways through fire and through water. The disasters you are seeing in Japan, Australia, New Zealand and America etc. are merely warnings. The disasters will be global and huge. It is sad to think that only when human beings are on their knees in desperation, are they prepared to change. However if change does not occur, then this will be the outcome.
Life is a precious gift that allows us to learn great lessons. Under the laws of the Universe we are all entitled to learn and grow. However, we are not entitled to leave a trail of destruction behind us, in order to achieve this.

What can we do?
Think. 
Think about what we eat and where it comes from.
Think about how we treat people.
Think about how we treat animals.
Think about how we use chemicals.
Think about anger.
Think about charity.
Think about kindness.
Think about independence.
Think about love.
Think about change.
Think about life.

You will read this blog on Sunday as Mr. Camping's predictions have been manipulated by media hype. What Mr. Camping has shown is that the Universe is watching over us and if we fail to act responsibly, then the gift of life will be taken away from us until we do.
Be grateful, be responsible and be the best of yourself. Remember you are part of God.
I will leave you with a poem I wrote called ‘What is love?’ It is taken from my ‘The Angel Book of Hours.’ A friend who was getting married asked me to write a poem for her wedding which I was very happy to do. The poem talks about a love that is all forgiving, accepts and understands. It makes no demands and is not confined to only those close to us. It is an angelic love.
When we learn to love unconditionally, the process of healing can begin. It is this love that God has for us. Breathing life into our bodies, bringing joy to our heart, the power of love is revealed – in the essence of Life.

What is love?
What love is not,
With ease I’ll say,
For true love
Never drifts away.

To cherish,
Yet to give them space,
With thoughts of love
Upon your face
Is stronger than the rope of steel,
You may have held,
To make them heel.

“I loved them once,
But things have changed,”
Is not the way
Our Lord behaves.
Love stands so strong,
That winds from Hell
Have no effect, from tales we tell.

Expecting or demanding love
Is not what happens high above.
So as in Heaven so below,
The source of love will freely flow.

And if the rules,
By which you live,
They break,
Well you must then forgive.
For this your Father does for you,
As what we take,
We too should do.

To truly love another soul,
Is just a part of being whole.
For you will see a time one day,
When everyone, you’ll love this way.

'What is love?’ is taken from ‘The Angel Book of Hours’ by Lucian Eyers © 2011


1. Metro newspaper May 18th 20011 ‘The end is nigh (Forget about Sunday)'.
 

Friday, 13 May 2011

Wisdom of the Week – Sex, Drugs and Religion. Part 1 Sex

Lucian Eyers © 2011
A friend once asked me what the angels thought of us when we masturbate. After smiling I explained the angels do not judge but understand us. I could then sense the angels were also smiling at what my friend had said and it reminded me how angels love laughter and are often amused at how seriously we take ourselves.
We are all at different stages of spiritual development, all learning complex lessons. Controlling our emotions and finding balance are where the demands of our body can teach us to grow.
Each of us has a feminine and masculine element. However, when we incarnate into a physical body, we have to choose one or the other. Angels are androgynous as their sexuality is in perfect balance. They can reveal themselves in either the feminine or masculine form. It is this balance that we are learning to develop.
 

What about homosexuality? 
When we choose our life's lessons, our higher selves decide whether these lessons would be better learnt in a male or female body.  The past lives of a soul may have been more familiar with the opposite gender. There can be a longing for what was once earlier understood, choosing to express their sexuality as they had in the past. There are also very challenging tests as a homosexual due to the obvious prejudice of many. In much darker times, homosexuals were treated very badly and would have suppressed their feelings. We are now seeing a great number who wish to be born at a time where they can be more accepted and fulfil their life’s lessons. Long ago when the planet was at a higher frequency, homosexuals were loved and honoured in the same way heterosexuals were. A clear benchmark of how advanced any society is, can be measured by how the majority treat those in the minority. 
So how is sex for pleasure viewed by the Universe opposed to sex for reproduction? 
It is important to remember that it is not the act itself that makes sex beautiful or barbaric, but the intention. If sex is entered into with two willing people with love and is not at the detriment to another, then this is a divine expression. If however a person is unconsenting, below the legal age and is violated in some way, then the perpetrator will accrue karma that will have to be repaid. For those who violate children or the elderly, the karmic burden is heavy indeed. We often hear of such cases where people have been abused and ask why this was allowed to happen. There are many reasons why someone will be abused. It could be that the abused person has undertaken an ‘initiation,’ in order to show others how we must learn to honour each other. If this person can forgive the abuser, the reward for spiritual growth is immense. It may also be the case that the person who is being abused is repaying karma from a past life. By forgiving those who violate us, the vicious circle is broken and the karmic debt is repaid. The act of forgiveness is so powerful as a means of removing karma, because humans at this level find it so very difficult to do. You can help to master this by remembering that none of us are perfect. 
So does God punish us when we do something wrong?
No – God is love. We are all forgiven for our failings. However, we cannot change the laws under which the Universe governs us. Our higher selves would not wish for us to be treated differently from any other soul. Therefore, at a higher soul level, we will agree to settle our debts.

So what is the divine purpose for sex?

It was originally meant as a means of expressing love to the one we cherish. It was the means of bringing new life into the world and sharing in a commitment to fully experience unconditional love and to strengthen a relationship.
This changed as it was then used in a way that had not been intended by the spiritual realms. The church then used sex as a means of control and instilling guilt, forcing people to believe it was wrong for a child to be born out of wedlock. Those seeking power and wealth used it as a lucrative means for substituting love. Others through a lack of self-worth used it to gratify themselves through lust rather than through love.

So how do the angelic realms view marriage with someone of the same sex?

In the same way they view a heterosexual marriage. When two people commit themselves to each other through love, then this is considered to be a divine undertaking. Marriage is a contract sealed by two people and not by God. The angels do not judge us based on the gender of those committed to marriage, but are dedicated to helping any couple in their time together.
Marriage provides us with the opportunity to learn a sense of commitment. It gives us support if we feel vulnerable. It develops unconditional love and our capacity to forgive. Lessons are always more difficult to learn when it concerns someone you truly care for.

Do we need to learn celibacy to become spiritually advanced?

Some religious groups such as the Buddhist faith and the Catholic Church adopt celibacy as part of their order, however, this is very hard to achieve
and especially for men. If any challenge is forced upon us before we are ready, then this can lead to frustration, anger and in some cases abuse. Some souls will choose a life of celibacy to develop, but like all of us, if they fail, then they are given the opportunity again in another life.
From a higher spiritual level, sex is of course an expression of love. Through love there is life. Therefore, the act of sex is the catalyst of life and on which I would like to conclude this subject.

‘A baby girl who was said to be ‘clinically dead’ by doctors has amazed her family by recovering from meningitis. Lillie-Mai’s parents were told it would be best if her life-support machine was switched off.
But Belinda Little and Rupert Jackson refused to give up on their child and knew she was pulling through when the little battler started responding to noise. Mr Jackson, 31, said: ‘I noticed that every time someone closed the door and it banged there would be a small response. It wasn’t much but I could see her reacting.’
Lillie-Mai was 14 weeks old when she contracted the killer virus on January 11. Two days later she suffered a heart attack in hospital.
Although she pulled through, the girl’s body was horribly swollen and her parents were told she had two hours to live. Miss Little, 22, said: ‘They said if she had another cardiac arrest they would not intervene. It was as though I was stuck in a nightmare.’
Lillie-Mai had 11 major operations while doctors fought to save her and has lost both her legs and an arm to the disease.
Her parents, of Maryport in Cumbria, are now raising the £20,000 needed to pay for bionic legs with flexible knees.’1 






This article was published this year on May 11th. Lillie-Mai contracted the virus this year on January 11th. Lillie-Mai also had eleven major operations. Numbers are significant. The spiritual world uses them to show us that these events are not just random coincidences, but opportunities for learning. Lillie-Mai demonstrated to us the importance of life and even when all seemed to be against her, she was determined to survive. Eleven is a number often associated with bad events, but from a spiritual perspective eleven is the beginning of something significant and wonderful at a higher level. In Lillie-Mai’s case, she has shown us that life is truly precious and not to be taken for granted, denigrated or taken from us prematurely by another.
This is so often not the case, as many are confused believing it is acceptable to take another’s life under certain circumstances. However, karma will be accrued whatever the circumstances.
We are born out of love and so as we came into this world, this is how we should leave. Ready to continue on our spiritual journey of growth and understanding; the journey of life. 
A friend came to me one day and said his wife was experiencing post-natal depression. I asked the angels for some guidance and the result was a poem I wrote called, ‘The Joy of Life.’ This poem is taken from my book, ‘The Angel Book of Hours.’ My illustration for the poem is above. I presented my friend with the poem and he told me later that he had handed it to his wife one morning while she was in bed with her baby. When he returned a few minutes later she was crying. I would like to think that perhaps her tears – were out of joy.

The Joy of Life 

The baby lay within her arms,
And knew his mother’s tears
Were shed not out of love for him,
But fell from all her fears.

He asked his guardian angel,
“Can you make my Mummy smile?”
And he was told that patience
Will reveal this in a while.

The infant was determined,
And insisted, “Help her now.”
The angel said, “Great courage
You will need, so this is how.

You know not where you are,
Or if the food upon your lips
Will cease to last, but now I ask,
You trust her then with this.

I ask you so to smile,
And know your mother loves you much.
But fear and her exhaustion
Brings a sadness that is such.

One day you’ll be a parent
Understanding how she feels,
So in her weary arms, my child,
The joy of life – reveal.”


‘The Joy of Life’ taken from ‘The Angel Book of Hours,’ by Lucian Eyers © 2011

1. METRO Newspaper 11th May 2011 ‘‘Our baby refused to die”

Friday, 6 May 2011

Wisdom of the Week – Sex, Drugs and Religion Part 2 Drugs

Lucian Eyers © 2011
 
We understand drugs have the capacity to harm or heal. We know taking drugs for medical reasons is socially acceptable opposed to using them for pleasure. It is true that narcotics can allow us to visit spiritual planes in the same way meditation will. However, the danger taking this route is addiction, pressure on the heart and the destruction of cells. It is important to mention that if you are of a positive state of mind your experience will be different than if you are negative. It is the difference of experiencing heaven or hell. Practising meditation will clear your mind and answer many questions you may have. It is the corner stone in achieving a state of oneness and spiritual enlightenment. 

What are we doing wrong? 
Because of greed and ignorance the world has become awash with manufactured chemicals that are harming us and the planet.

Everything we need to remain healthy and in balance is naturally available to us. Yet chemicals pollute our air in the form of fossil fuel emissions; our drinking water is laced with fluoride which is highly poisonous; our sea water contains industrial waste, detergents and plastics; our food is full of artificial additives, preservatives and steroids; our fruit and vegetables are grown with the aid of pesticides, artificial fertilisers and fungicides and our bodies are being subjected to chemical creams and dyes to our hair. It is therefore no surprise that our bodies struggle with what we throw at them. We then try to remedy the problems by resorting to more chemicals known as drugs – some may call it medicine.

In Dr. Earl Conroy’s book on nutritional food and holistic healing he says, 'Eva Hill (a doctor, who is a prominent cancer specialist) has placed most of her cancer patients on an almost all raw food regimen, which is very effective. If raw food will help to control cancer, certainly it will aid in preventing cancer.'1 

Dr. Conroy continues by saying, 'To attain optimum health it seems that a higher percentage of raw food is essential. Optimally, 60 to 80% raw food grown organically, (with no artificial fertilizers or dangerous sprays), adequate protein and mineral supplements, and judicious use of cooked food, will result in vibrant heath which can last for far longer than we generally consider possible. Old age and senility, according to nutritional research is evidence of increasing nutritional deficiencies and growing toxaemia. Overcoming toxaemia, deficiencies, stress and unfavourable environments, could lead to exuberant health past the century mark, as is reasonably common in Russia, Bulgaria, Hunza and Vilacambaba Ecuador.'2 

Dr. Conroy’s holistic healing approach sees growth as fundamental in achieving our goal in life. The growth of energy and wellbeing involves six equal parts demonstrated by the use of a hexagon, they are:

• Health – eating natural and pure foods.

• Work – doing work you enjoy and is natural to your skills.

• Family – creating a sense of belonging.

• Spirituality – a sense of a meaningful existence, which can connect not only with Mother Earth but with the cosmos as well.

• Aesthetic appreciation – a need to express ourselves in a creative context be it art, music, dance, theatre, landscaping or literature etc.,

• Social expression – the need to share ourselves with others.

This wider holistic approach is the correct approach to take. Manufactured drugs may remove the symptoms, but the cause of the problem will still be present. This is why many manufactured drugs often need to be taken for long periods, sometimes for the rest of the patient’s life. An example of this is the common drug – statins.

A study was published in the journal ‘Metabolism’ that shows a combination diet of vegetables, fruit and nuts may be as effective as statins. 'Researchers in Canada have developed a vegetarian combination diet which they say cuts cholesterol by almost a third in just one month. The diet includes vegetables, such as broccoli and red peppers; soy milk and soy sausages; oat bran cereal and bread; and fruit and nuts. The researchers believe the food programme could be a possible drug-free alternative to cutting cholesterol and protecting people from heart disease.'

The article on the BBC website continues by stating, 'These drugs have been used extensively for 15 years to treat patients with high levels of cholesterol. Professor Jenkins said further and larger studies are needed before the diet could be recommended to patients.  He said: "The take home message right now is that there is hope for a drug-free treatment for some people with high cholesterol.” '3

This article was published in December 2002. Dr. Earl Conroy’s was published in 1981. Like so many things, common sense takes time to filter through. 

So why do we turn to conventional medicine opposed to alternative remedies? 
We are mislead is the simplest answer. Doctors are committed to improving our health. But they are lead by the research undertaken by the drugs companies on their own products. There are huge opportunities for conflict of interest to ensue. Manufactured medicines are also extremely powerful but by their nature they are man-made and do not contain the essence of nature. Natural discoveries such as penicillin and opium for pain relief are effective examples where nature provides us with what we need. 

So what is the answer? 
Independence. Take charge of our lives and feed ourselves with honour and dignity. We must explore safer alternatives, that are natural. We must finally recognise that bad health is the body’s mechanism warning us that we are doing something wrong.

Herbal medicines are cheap and like homeopathy will not harm you. They are however, a gentle medicine that will take time to work. For this to happen we must remain positive, stress-free and give ourselves plenty of rest.

However, because of our stressful lives, it is convenient to resort to manufactured drugs. Though powerful they are potentially dangerous and extremely expensive. This week saw an example of how the controversial cannabis plant saved a little boy’s life who was dying of cancer. This story reminds us to be careful what we consider to be bad. It shows that the alchemy of God is perfect, yet our humble efforts may be not.



A desperate father whose son was suffering from a life-threatening brain tumour has revealed he gave him cannabis oil to ease his pain. And he has now apparently made a full recovery. Cash Hyde, known as Cashy, was a perfectly healthy baby when he was born in June 2008 but became sick shortly before his second birthday. At first he was misdiagnosed with glandular fever before his parents Mike and Kalli, from Missoula in Montana, were given the devastating news he had a serious brain tumour.

The little boy had to have arduous chemotherapy treatment to reduce the growth, which had drastic side effects including seizures and a blood infection. His distraught parents were repeatedly told he was likely to succumb to the illness because the condition was so bad. After one bout of high-dose chemotherapy, Cash was so weak he could not lift his head and was too sick to eat any solid food for 40 days. It was at this point that Mr Hyde decided to take action and go down the route of medical marijuana to try to help his young son.

Mr Hyde said: “He hadn't eaten a thing in 40 days - and, it was really incredible to watch him take a bite of a piece of cheese. It shows that he wants to live'. He credits the cannabis oil with helping his son get through the chemo, and say Cash has now been declared cancer free by doctors. The boy is now back and home and living the life of a typical young boy, playing with his elder brother Colty.”



The father continued by saying, 'It's very controversial, it's very scary. But, there's nothing more scary than losing your child.” ‘4

My illustration above is taken from ‘The Angel Book of Hours’ and illustrates a short poem I wrote called, ‘What harm is there in Dust?’

The poem reminds us of our obsession with cleansing and defacing what is already perfect – from the tarnishing of metal to the wrinkles in our skin. Yet we do this to the detriment of our living Earth.  

What harm is there in dust? 

What harm is there in dust?
Why can’t they leave it just to settle?
Instead they scrub the changing face,
Of plastic, wood and metal.

Clear waters take their effluence,
As skin is cleansed with oil.
But deep beneath the seas and skin,
The scene is one of spoil.

It breaks my heart to see a world,
Where greed is such a must.
The World will seem then very clean,
When Man reverts to dust.


What harm is there in dust?’ taken from ‘The Angel Book of Hours,’ by Lucian Eyers © 2011

1. Page 28 Nutritional summary with supplement of ‘Nutritional, Biological and Psychological Factors in Holistic Natural Healing’ by Dr. Earl W. Conroy, Chartered Natural Medicine Practitioner, Motueka, New Zealand.
2. Page 30 Nutritional summary with supplement of Nutritional, Biological and Psychological Factors in Holistic Natural Healing by Dr. Earl W. Conroy
3. BBC News Sunday, 15 December, 2002, ‘Vegetarian diet 'cuts heart risk'
4. Mailonline 4th May 2011 ‘Boy, two, with brain cancer is 'cured' after secretly being fed medical marijuana by his father’